Negative Reaction to Good News - How Can That Be?
Negative Reaction to Good News - How Can That Be?
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You would think that when handling a medical crisis that excellent news about your health would alleviate stress and anxiety. Personally, I used to be very surprised that after the initial elation of excellent news, a "down" feeling set in. it had been almost just like the excellent news was an excessive amount of. It appeared like an odd response and in brooding about it I used to be inspired to write down this text. Who would have thought that excellent news could produce anything but good feelings?
Let's explore the dynamics of bad news and excellent news . (I addressed what to try to once you get bad news during a prior article.)
Anticipation is that the enemy because it produces anxiety and stress. When diagnosed with a significant or life-threatening illness the main target is on treatment. The anticipation is that the treatment is going to be successful or a minimum of there's hope that it'll be. But this is often only the start of the journey. Eventually, the doctors will check to ascertain if the treatment is functioning or not. The anticipation and expecting that the first test is tough and emotional. After all, your family and friends do an equivalent thing... waiting. This shared experience might desire support or perhaps it'll desire you're liable for their feelings too or something in between. Anticipation builds nervous energy inside including negative projections and a way of responsibility for a way others will feel.
You get good news! The treatment is functioning. A wave of relief is often felt by everyone. there's happiness, celebration, and expectations of being well. the reality is that the scheme just begins again for subsequent test and marker of your health. subsequent test and results follow. Perhaps it's excellent news again or perhaps you will get bad news. The anticipation rises again. You and your loved ones find yourselves nervous, on edge, and perhaps a touch burned out with the method that you simply now know will continue unless the health crisis ends. The cycle starts again and anticipation gets worse especially if you've got been yo-yo-ing between good and bad news.
Now I understand the "down" feelings after excellent news. The flame of expectation is lit again for yourself and people on the brink of you. The expectation results in anticipation, which results in anxiety, stress, and other feelings.
Feeling down upon hearing excellent news is additionally self-protection from the yo-yo effect of the cycle of positive and negative news. If you do not get too excited then it won't hurt such a lot if the news is negative or neutral (more waiting). If you're one among those that feel liable for others' feelings you'll not even have the celebratory experience. Feeling down or neutral after excellent news protects you from disappointment, protects you from upset, and protects you from future projections about your health outcome.
Now you recognize the mechanism and therefore the cycle that makes anticipation and the explanation for low or neutral feelings upon hearing excellent news. Is it okay to handle news about your health status during this manner? in fact, it is! there's no right or wrong with feelings. everyone manages them in their own unique way. Someone told me that staying neutral with the great and bad news is healthy. No big ups and downs allow the body to remain calm and in healing mode. The cycle and process of handling a health crisis are simply what it is: a cycle, a process, life... your life.
Staying present also will help manage anticipation. meaning listening to what's happening now rather than brooding about what went on within the past and creating projections about what could happen or should happen within the future. These projections don't help unless you're using positive imagery to figure together with your subconscious via hypnosis, for instance, which is extremely effective to calm the mind, body, and emotions and keep you present within the now. After all, the now's all you, your family, and friends can really handle and staying focused within the here and now makes things easier.
Exercise: If you discover yourself in anticipatory anxiety, either from past experiences or projections about the longer term, you'll do something about it!
Get into a cushty position together with your eyes closed. Take 3 or 4 slow breaths. If your mind remains running otherwise you feel negative feelings, just notice them. No "fixing" is important. As you breathe slowly, let your body begin to relax. Your limbs might feel a touch heavy, your back will abandoning of tension, and your neck will release alongside your hands and feet. Your pulse may slow as you relax. Just keep noticing your body, your thoughts, and your feelings. there's nothing to try to to in the least but notice. Simply breathe and concentrate on either your right or left foot. Notice your toes, heel, arch, and ankle. Draw your attention up to your calf and shin, behind your knee, and ahead of your knee to your thigh and buttocks. Notice your hip. Keep breathing slowly. Draw your attention up to your hep your thigh, into the tiny of your back, up your spine, and to the side of your back. Notice your abdomen and belly. Become conscious of your chest and therefore the movement of your chest as you breathe.
Notice your shoulder, drawing your attention down through your arm to your hand, and see each finger. Shift back to your shoulder and become conscious of your neck and throat. Then move your awareness thereto side of your face, including your mouth, jaw, eye, forehead and ear, and your forehead. concentrate to the rear of your head, moving up to the highest of your scalp. Then shift your attention to the opposite side of your body and let your attention travel down from your head and scalp to your toes.
That is it. you'll have an experience of being present together with your body, your mind will quiet, and you'll relax. If you wish, you'll move your awareness around your body 2 or 3 times which can deepen your experience. This process promotes relaxation, balanced emotions, and being present, the space from which you'll best handle the experience of managing a health crisis.